I often post quotes on Facebook and Twitter about different people about the topics I am interested in, or I think other people would benefit. Recently on Facebook somebody sent me the following private message:
"Everything that annoys us, can understand us for understanding" – Carl Jung
Chris – I don't understand, can you help? 19659004] After typing almost a complete answer, I realized that it was long enough to be an article … and so I decided to do exactly that – translate the answer to the article. I hope you enjoy … 🙂
I hope I can help … but this is a deep understanding that truly understands personal exploration. The simple version: While someone else's words or actions disrupt us, it means that our own enjoyment depends on people. Our happiness is never our own, but rather our & quot; to those who annoyed us.
In order to move away from this difficulty, we have to choose ourselves to be aware … even in the most difficult times. Therefore, every time someone else disrupts it, it would help us to ask ourselves: "Why is it annoying?" And then when we have a response, we ask again, "Why is it annoying me?"
The intention is to discover the reason why a person's behavior is degraded.
For example, if a partner leaves his cups all the time, we may be nervous. But why? Well, we say "disrespectful." Is this really? Why do we think it is disrespectful? Maybe we can discover that this is what one of our parents did as a child. And then we can remember every fight that our parents had to face with the same problem.
If we understand that we see the real reason why our current partner shook the cup, it has nothing to do with disrespect, but a reminder of our parents' previous arguments.
This is a * very * short and limited example … and I hope you discover your own answer.
Just remember – every time you interfere with something – just pause and ask yourself why … because it's usually not nervous because of what's happening in the present, but because something happened in the past.
Another example: Your partner comes home late. You are upset and say they are disrespectful. But if you feel your body, you will notice that you feel touched, so you ask yourself why. What you discover is that you are somewhere in there, fear being left … and when they come home late, worry about leaving you. You may have discovered that as a child you never knew when one of your parents came home, or sometimes your parents divorced, or sometimes a parent left the routine routine, and never came home (dead, ran), etc.).
And so we discover that your late home partner will not spoil you, because it is not disrespectful, but because you will be afraid to leave.
This logic is true for all things that disturb us.
To varying degrees … some smaller than others. Sometimes it is so small that we will not notice it, such as being disappointed that a little child has stepped back on our toes. Or maybe this is a huge question that has often come into contact (personal or professional) and has never been resolved.
Whatever you want to experience more peace in your life, just be like a kid again … don't forget to ask, "Why?"
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