We often do things and then regret it because we didn't really want to do it. We also find ourselves responding quickly and impressively to situations that have been able to think a little bit, we could have managed much better.
Steve Peters, a psychiatrist who has worked with Victoria Pendleton and Sir Chris Hoy, has created a model that can easily explain the neuroscience background, but can also provide strategies to treat emotional complexity frequently; not that bad, but sometimes immediate, emotional responses prevent us from doing what we really want.
The brain is rather complex and understanding is not easy. However, if you focus only on certain bits of the brain and what they do, Peters provides a model that is reliably easy to use. It only focuses on the frontal lobe, the parietal and the limbic.
The frontal lobe is connected to the motion control, but also with higher order functions. Here is your ability to plan and make decisions, as well as your reasoning and judgment. The prefrontal cortex also monitors its personality and behavior. This is the bit that Peters thinks like Man, the little you think.
The parietal lobe, which is referred to as a computer in the book, is responsible for speech, information processing, and knowledge or knowledge. This is a storage area and many things you do automatically are processed very quickly. This provides a degree of stability and helps in the management or even prevention of internal conflicts.
Finally, the limbic system is the bit that allows you to feel joy and other emotions, such as fear or anger. It is especially related to the instincts of survival, and thus it is related to eating, sex and protection. This is the area of the brain known in the book of mind management known as The Chimp Paradox .
These bits of the brain are able to control themselves, but they can work together. However, he often finds himself in conflict; this is the feeling when a part of you want a thing and a part of you and you have a debt for what you are actually doing. This is especially between chimpanzee and man.
The chimpanzee is your emotional machine in life to ensure survival in the jungle of the world. He sees things like a real chimpanzee with black-and-white expressions, with no gray area. It may be irrational and often jumps to the point of view of its feelings and impressions. It can easily become paranoid and catastrophic, assuming that the worst property actually happens. Once you recognize the threats, you will be fighting, fighting, or freezing. Chimpanzees are governed by the laws of the jungle by drivers and instincts. This is not always the most useful way to deal with the situations in which you find yourself and not your brain as your brain wants to work.
. your brain is obviously doing a bit differently than a chimpanzee. He wants to work according to the laws of society and to control things such as morality, ethics and conscience in order to achieve the goal. To be honest and legitimate, or to be compassionate or self-controlled, they all belong to the human domain because they fit into their social agenda. Once we have logically considered the facts and evidence, one has to make decisions that fit into this agenda to achieve ultimate success, but within society.
Conflict  It's easy to see how these two brains are in conflict with how they want to live and react to situations. An event is interpreted by emotions and impressions, and the use of emotional thinking creates a response. The other will experience the same event, but examine the facts, then apply logic and give a completely different answer. If this happens at the same time and simply with two choices, human or chimpanzee, you can make a decision. However, the chimpanzee is much stronger and faster, so it always wins in a straightforward fight between the two options. Event information first comes to the chimpanzee, and so the reaction always occurs before people have the opportunity to work on things. This means that you need to find ways to handle chimpanzees in the way you want, so that you don't simply win every internal fight and run your life in jungle – fight with others, escape from detected bad situations, or freeze and don't let you do anything .
The first step in dealing with emotions is to treat two bits of your brain. If you have unwanted feelings or thoughts, maybe the chimpanzee. If you ask yourself, "Do I want to feel this way (or do I think of these things)?" and the answer is not #; then you are not directed at you right now. If so, you would obviously feel other preferred things. There are other signs when you start to follow what if … & # 39; Scenarios and worst thinking (eg disaster with chimpanzees), or when you notice that your action is determined by feeling right.
After realizing that the chimpanzee has taken over, you must understand and accept the system and its rules. Because the chimpanzee's brain is so stronger and faster than man's, it's not just overdrive. Power only works for you if you take advantage of the chimpanzee's emotional power – losing itself in itself and returning to unwanted actions that you tried to avoid (but the chimpanzee worked well). However, the chimpanzee will not always be active. If the situations are calm and prevented, then there will be no trouble and sleep; quietly. If you detect any threat, you can take control immediately. This can be anything from the driver to the upcoming demo that he is preparing. These seem to be dangerous to your health and well-being, and so the chimpanzee feels that you have to behave in some way to protect you. He will make a proposal and recommend it to man. Record the & quot; offer & # 39; – Do not command or force – but if you simply refuse the offer, the chimpanzee becomes even more excited, which makes you feel worse.
From the offer you must first take care of the chimpanzee and take care of what you need. It calms down. Whether you have to feel safe, whether to eat or anything, in a healthy, civilized way, you can ensure that both the chimpanzee and the chimpanzee. Then you have to do things to treat the chimpanzee if you relax a little. First, you can let it practice and unleash all the feelings you feel while you are exhausted. You can then throw chimpanzees by giving you the truth, because you are a little relaxed and now you accept the odd things better. Sometimes you can go straight there if you are calm, but often you have to leave your emotions and you have to kick it out first. Finally, there is a need to provide distractions or rewards to fully satisfy it; maybe you are doing something else to divert or consider the reward the chimpanzee wants, so you will first have to do the job.
Whatever it is to work with emotional chimpanzees. the brain is not against it – it overcomes itself in a fight. Learn when to take over and do something today. Managing chimpanzees is essential for continuous success.
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