Q. I work with more people in an office, all of whom are doing well together. But there is a man who really gets my goat. Everyone smiles, smiles, and moves with the boss and behaves like everyone else's boyfriend. The problem is that this person steals the ideas of others, speaks behind him, and basically wolves in the sheep's clothing. I like my job and I will not leave it for the world. So what should I do? Will I go to the boss, complain, I gather my colleagues, and I fight myself with this person myself?
A. I often asked this question, probably because it seems that these people are in almost every workplace.
What you handle is what I call a shark. And worse, it's not a shark that's as big and obvious as the "cheeks." It looks and works like a dolphin
The problem is that when you are in the water, it is difficult to distinguish between them.
We quickly pick up the difference between dolphins and sharks in the workplace, and then we make "hands and feet" for these concepts.
The dolphins are the people you trust. Sharks are the people I can not trust at best and, in the worst case, defend themselves.
 They do what they say they will do.
You Bear Their Words
They Are Responsible for Flaws
SHARK TRAITS [
Can not Respect them
You Can not Trust them
Their Behavior do not match their word
They blame others.
They can not trust it.
The beaver, who is ready to pass through the river, is his story. As he was ready for the cross, he came to a scorpion who wanted to ride. The beaver refused to say that the scorpion would deceive him and die. The scorpion denied this and promised not to damage the beaver if he just crossed the river. The beaver, who was a benevolent and spellbound man, allowed the scorpion to slide on his back and swim through the river. As the cascade reached the shore, the scorpion got stunned and set off. As the beaver lay there, he asked the scorpion why his promise broke. The scorpion replied, "I am a scorpion, I do."
So there are some working relationships as well.
One of the most useful ways of handling sharks and scorpions is by playing a game called "I can wait". For most dolphin-like people, it usually comes as a surprise when people behave like sharks. She gets the guard.
The "I can wait for" playing simply means that we can expect them with certain people, and we can almost trust them to behave in a sham-like manner.
Designing Negative Behavior
Responding Instead of Reacting
Predicting Another Behavior
Reducing Stress Level
After a little practice, you can still laugh at what's happening: "Here comes, I expected." One of my customers I once worked with had a colleague who showed a variety of shark-like behaviors. When Mary introduced an idea to a staff meeting, her colleague wanted to shoot.
Mary "was able to expect" the game to reach a creative solution. When Mary realized that she really wanted to see her, she simply tried to answer her colleague and thought the idea at least a week before the meeting. With this colleague, he gave her the illusion of participation and prevented him from throwing the idea away. Now some may call it manipulative. I call it simply working smarter. You do not have to confront the person, talk to the boss or associate your colleagues. The good news is that this technique can help keep in your head in difficult situations. And if you can keep your head when you lose them all, it will reveal the sharks that actually are.
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